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Arthur Donald Starr

February 18, 2024
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Arthur Starr Obituary

In lieu of flowers, the family requests contributions to

Our Lady of Peace R.C. Church

25 Fowler Avenue

Lynbrook, N.Y. 11563

Arthur Donald Starr was born on August 21, 1937 and grew up an only child in Woodside, New York City. His mother was a homemaker and gentle soul. His father was a lace salesman and jazz musician who traveled widely and played with many jazz greats. 

Arthur was the first person in his family to go to college, and after proudly graduating with a degree in accounting in 1959 from St.John's University, he put his accounting skills to use when he began his career as an underwriter at Guardian Life Insurance Company.  Over the course of thirty-eight years at the Guardian, he quietly worked his way up the corporate ladder and retired as a senior officer of the company and Vice President of Dental Insurance. For his 30th anniversary at the Guardian, his colleagues gifted him with a keepsake video that captures many some favorite office quips such as "drink enough coffee so you don't fall asleep at your desk" and "always use a dark mug so you don't have to don't have to clean it so much."

Arthur enlisted in the United States Army Corps and the U.S. Army Reserves, both in New York, and was honorably discharged in 1966. His wife and love of his life, Connie, also enlisted and served as a nurse in the Army before her honorable discharge as an officer. Like all smart men, Arthur knew and cheerfully accepted that his wife outranked him in the armed forces and many other areas of life.

Arthur and Connie were married in 1978 and he always said he was the luckiest man in the world for meeting his wife Connie, who changed his life for the better. Almost two years after the birth of their twin children, Arthur Brian and Maureen Grace, the Starr family moved from a small apartment in Elmhurst, Queens to a larger home in Lynbrook. Their youngest son, Donald Anthony, was born there in 1980.  

For over forty years, Arthur was a proud member of the congregation at Our Lady of Peace Catholic Church in Lynbrook, where he also volunteered on the school board and then later as an usher for the 10am mass on Sundays. His volunteer work and friendships with others at "OLP" were a source of great joy to him. After his passing, many of us also learned that his personal devotion was matched by regular and often anonymous charitable donations for people in need.

In his retirement Arthur took up golfing and enjoyed playing regularly with his fellow retired colleagues from the Guardian, Ritchie, Pete and Bob.  He often shared stories of their golf games and their penny per hole bets (sometimes a quarter per hole if they felt like raising the stakes ���), and was proud to be the only witness to Ritchie’s Hole-in-One.  Arthur mastered the key to a happy and healthy retirement, which he always said was routine, regular exercise, developing new hobbies, building relationships with others, and treating your retirement like your last and best job.  He frequently told his children that in order to truly enjoy your retirement and maximize the time you have left on this earth, you must wake up early every day to go to your “retirement job”, stay physically active, volunteer and do other activities, and make an effort to socialize with others.  Arthur followed his own retirement advice, and was driving until the end, was an avid fan of walking 3-5 miles a day, and he was fitter both mentally and physically than many people half his age, and was truly grateful for his health.  His children and other family members all joke that they now need to get in shape so they can be as healthy as he was for their own future retirements.  

In addition to golfing, Arthur also loved tending to his garden, and greatly enjoyed hosting cookouts and large family gatherings. You could count on him always to greet you warmly and to have a large stock of cookies. 

Arthur will be most remembered for his kind and calm presence and his unwavering devotion to his family, his church, and his coffee. Perhaps equally important, was a great sense of humor, a personal quality that delighted all who knew him well and often surprised those who did not expect his wry comments and hilarious sayings. You could be sure to find Arthur at any social gathering quietly giggling at his own jokes or deliberately stirring up the passions of others. He did not like arguments but he did enjoy starting them off for others to finish. He enjoyed stirring the passions of his wife's Calabrian relatives on topics big and small only to walk away with a chuckle. No one was more amused by Arthur than Arthur himself. His mischievous sense of humor and ability to laugh at and with himself will be greatly missed.

Friends and family are invited to join us on Friday, February, 23th from 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. and 4 p.m. to 6 p.m. at Flinch and Bruns funeral home at 34 Hempstead Avenue, Lynbrook, NY 11563 and for his funeral mass at 9:45 am on Saturday, February 24th at Our Lady of Peace Church. Arthur was a simple and very practical man, so if you feel inclined to do something in his memory,  in lieu of flowers, Arthur would have very much appreciated donations to Our Lady of Peace Church.  


 

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Services

Visitation
Friday
February 23, 2024

2:00 PM to 4:00 PM
Flinch & Bruns Funeral Home, Inc.
34 Hempstead Avenue (corner Peninsula Blvd.)
Lynbrook, NY 11563

Visitation
Friday
February 23, 2024

6:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Flinch & Bruns Funeral Home, Inc.
34 Hempstead Avenue (corner Peninsula Blvd.)
Lynbrook, NY 11563

Funeral Mass
Saturday
February 24, 2024

9:45 AM
Our Lady of Peace RC Church
25 Fowler Avenue
Lynbrook, N.Y. 11563

Interment
Saturday
February 24, 2024

St. Charles Cemetery
2015 Wellwood Avenue
Farmingdale, NY 11735

Donations

Our Lady of Peace R.C. Church

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